Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Now for the things I ignored in yesterday's post....

First the test mentioned that ADHD is often co-morbid with Dyslexia and we might want to look at that. She showed us an ADHD 'symptom' list and he has about half the items on the list, and not just the messy room type which I really think is fairly age typical. I've thought about it for awhile but I'm not sure it is something I need to worry about. I mean other than when I'm PMSing and the boy can.not. shut up. At that point I'm ready to try any drug, anything that will get him to shut up and just be for a bit. Then I think about how addictive stimulants are and what a crazy hard thing it is to get this boy to take medication. I really don't know that I have a reason to get him tested/diagnosed or medicated. He is learning (if we ignore the reading thing and he is getting better just very, very slowly) and able to show what he knows. So I have some thinking to do, some more thinking to do.

The other thing is  the boy keeps mentioning how he wants a sibling. How happy he would be if I were to get pregnant. This is such a hard thing for me. I wish on so many levels that I could have given him a sibling. I never imagined having an only child, that was not part of my 'plan', I wanted more than one child for selfish reasons, I wanted him to have a sibling because I know how important my siblings are in my life. I had hoped to have a daughter to share girly things. The thing is it did not happen, we lost the only other pregnancy I had very early and have never gotten pregnant again. I'm actually ok with having an only child at this point, it has taken me years to get here but I'm comfortable here. It no longer makes me cry every month when I'm yet again not pregnant. I think this time of year is harder since this is when I lost my pregnancy 6 years ago, but I'm doing really well now. My family is good we are able to do fun things as a family of 3 that we would not have been able to do if we were a family of 4 or 5. The boy and I are going to try some blacksmithing today that if I had younger kiddos around I'm not sure I'd feel safe doing (yes I will try to blog the blacksmith experiment). Life is good.

Monday, April 25, 2011

The weekend, the week, the tests to come...

Shall we start with the homeschool/dyslexia bit and then move on to other things? Or should I start with our newest family member and then move on to other things?

New family member it is, it works chronologically better anyway. ;) So when we lost Sweetie DH & talked about getting a dog for the boy next. He was very broken up that his pets had all died so early, his toad died early, his triops died early (what you don't know what a triops is or if you do know question it being considered a pet well first for those of you who don't know what a triops is here is a picture...
Now for those of you who would not consider this a pet, well let me introduce you to my boy, the one who loves all his stuffies, all animals and feels they are all his friends, until his is close and they are larger than he is) his hamster died early. He was feeling like he had bad luck with pets. We wanted to get something that was longer lived that meant bigger. He is also old enough and active enough that a dog is a really good idea for him, they could run off a lot of energy together. So we then found a doggie on Petfinder and well...
There she is, she is a little brown doggie. I've decided from now on when anyone asks me what kind of dog she is I will say "Brown" Her name is Honey and while she is a bit nervous meeting new people for the first time she did really well on Sunday at Easter dinner we had 13 people and 7 dogs. We are so happy with her. Last night she and the Boy were both falling asleep on the couch.

They love each other but somehow I've become her person in the house. Sigh, I don't know how that happened, I keep telling everyone that I'm a cat person not a dog person but she does not seem to care.

Now to the dyslexia testing front, we met with the tester on Friday, just DH & I. She wanted to see if it sounded like there might be another diagnosis that would mean we should to see a neuro psych rather than someone who is only qualified to test for dyslexia. She is an elementary teacher who works with the Barton System to teach dyslexics to read. I nearly told her to leave at one point in the conversation but she quickly redeemed herself at least partly. One of the assessments I sent her was his WPPSI-III results showing he was being considered for the G/T school and her first thought was a kid who is being considered for GT can't be dyslexic. So not true and I feel like every time I see those results they are SCREAMING at me that there was evidence of a problem 3.5 years ago and I've been letting is slide. Anyway, she then said as she was looking at the results she saw how much lower his processing speed score was than the verbal and performance scores and that dyslexia is a processing disorder. So we are testing in mid May and will have the report by the second week in June. It will give me time over the summer to read and digest it, figure out what I need to do for next year and get the things I will need.

On Saturday we went to the Save the Children in Japan Concert and Benefit. I helped with one of the booths and brought some of my knitting, most of it sold if I had not had crazy, crazy, crazy weeks I would have had more little chicks to sell. Sigh. It was fun and DH & Honey wondered around the campus and the open space behind it. The boy helped me at the booth. It was fun, there was great food and a good band. We made 1,485 cranes to take to Osh Gosh, for each crane made Osh Gosh is sending a piece of children's clothing to Japan. They also raised over $5,000 to send to Save the Children. Not bad for 2.5 hours.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Learning, not knitting.

I'm slow, I have to learn something many, many times before it sinks in. And sometimes more than that. Let me give an example.

When we first started homeschooling I knew my boy thinks better when he moves. I bought him a bouncy ball to sit on while we worked. He loved it. When we started with COVA it didn't seem to fit the way we were working so it got put to the side. He is now really to big for it. I have slowly moved to more sitting still and learning style, it is how I learn and haven't been able to figure out, or tried to figure out really, how to incorporate movement into the boy's learning. We have fought more and more with each passing month.

Friday the Boy announced that he was going to do school while walking on the treadmill. Ok I thought, we would likely have a fight when it came to the spelling test but we'll work on everything else while he walks.

I ended up giving him the spelling test orally and he did great. It was much faster than when he has to write it down.

I'm thinking I need to get him a typing/keyboarding program. That or check out something like Dragon Naturally Speaking for him. The problem with the voice recognition programs is I've heard they are not good at recognizing young voices. We'll see.

So yet again I have forgotten something I knew worked in the past, the boy's brain is connected to his feet/legs, and find life is much easier when I don't ignore that. Sigh.

Anyone have ideas about teaching a kid that needs to move to think? It really does seem to short circuit his brain to have to be still.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

I'm back, or what the heck have I been doing?

Where I've been is digesting the wonderful information you all shared with me. Thank you. This has been crazy and scary and we aren't even that far into it.

We are going to have him tested, with a qualifier thrown in. We are meeting with the tester first and if what we tell her and show her with his work doesn't make her feel 85% certain that he is dyslexic then she won't test. That is fine with me. I have no desire to put him through testing if it isn't going to give us good info. Plus then really the money can be spent on more expensive testing. That will give us info on what else it could be.

We are looking at some different programs to use with him. I purchased one today through the Homeschool Buyers Co-op  called Reading Assistant. (The link will take you to the page describing it.) I'm hoping it will help him increase his fluency. I will continue to use the Phonics Pathways for now. It seems to help a bit and he is getting better at reading. I'm feeling better that we are doing something positive.

Of course now that I've admitted that it might be dyslexia I'm seeing everything as that. Isn't that the way it always is? He has this habit of repeating the first part of his sentences before getting to the main idea. An example from today he was talking to his Aunty and said "He wanted to... he wanted to.... he wanted to try something more positive." Then continued the conversation. This is something he always does. Come to find out this behavior is called Cluttering as opposed to stuttering. When reading the list of symptoms I never bothered to look and see what that meant since he doesn't stutter, or do what I think of as stuttering so I figured he didn't do whatever was associated with it. Heh.

So DH & I have a meeting with the tester in a couple of weeks, she will go over all the test results we have, look at some of his writing samples, and talk to us about our history.

On another front my brother-in-law and sister-in-law are putting on a charity event with the proceeds going to Save the Children specifically for children in Japan effected by the earthquake and tsunami from March 11, 2011. If you live in the Denver metro area please consider coming out and listen to bands, buy some books for your kids or maybe some of my stuffed animals. I'm working on some chicks and maybe some bunnies to sell. They will look like these,

kind of, in the way that they are based on the same pattern but, well they are handmade and so each is an individual. ;) So the Deets on the event...

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